Self Love: Create Abundance


Welcome to my peace filled place.  Thank *you* for choosing to share energy here today!

“It will never rain roses.  When we want to have more roses, we must plant roses”. – George Eliot

I have just emerged from my self-guided retreat. When I began, I did not know how much time I would invest.  I promised my self that I would honor my retreat space until I could find clarity and peace.  This process took approximately three weeks.  I learned quite a lot during this time.  What I did not do was to close completely down.  If I am to ask God/Universe for clarity and peace, I Know  that in order to receive it, my heart has to remain open. 

What I did do was to honor my own internal process.  To spend hours immersed in nature.  To allow only that which is healthy, whole, peace filled, love filled into my personal space.  To exercise and make sensible food choices.  To connect with inspiration in all of its forms.  To allow grace, compassion, love to transform internal criticism to self-love.   

I emerged *me*, yet a different me.  Definitely ready to embrace simplicity

It is on my heart to share two things with you own insight, and an article from a friend who inspires me to manifest and create regardless of external circumstances. 

My insight:

I truly believe we walk together so it is my hope that my insight will encourage you to examine your own path and allow your self to love fully and experience magical. 

I notice (in general) that ‘failure’ is pretty well accepted..yet ‘success’ can make one a target, a pariah..I became afraid to succeed!

We walk together, but we each have unique, custom to us steps.  I choose to surround my self with butterflies and glitter, bold colors, music, candles… so each of my steps is Light filled, bold, color filled, purposeful, spunky, and absolutely dripping magic!  Just today I was sharing with a friend..I know that my choices are heart led, and may be viewed by some as impractical and foolish (so I’ve heard *grin*).  Most days I love my life and my self…some days I allow external ‘opinion’ to influence my steps.  There are people who do not wish me to grow, so not only did I consider not growing…I considered pinching my roots so I wouldn’t grow upward, just fill the container I am in..

I do not think I am alone in this.  I think there others who may feel a nugget of “I’m not worthy”, “who am I to receive abundance”, “how can I possibly deserve” x,y,z….and if this doubt is mirrored by someone around us, we think surely this is the sign from the Universe to pinch our roots. 


Right there.

We are made to ‘succeed’!  Whatever success is to you, it is yours to own, revel in, create, believe in, step into.  When you Hear your heart whisper, listen, then allow those whispers to guide you.  Celebrate!  Love.  Live.  Fully!  Dream.  Dream magnificently grandiose, whimsical, impractical, enriching, fulfilling..dreams!  And then..then..honor your unique custom to you steps and take those steps… boldly, confidently, tentatively, holding someone’s hand if it helps…

I believe in the Universe abundance..I do not believe I have to earn it, or that I may lose it..I believe I simply open my heart to tap into it, and “it” is mine.  When I close my heart, abundance is no longer mine.   My choice..I tap into it or I do not.  Today’s guest, Evelyn Lim, explains it best with the article she shares here.  Evelyn’s website Abundance Tapestry is full of creative, inspirational wisdom and ideas that I use often when I create.  I truly believe I create the moment…may you open your heart and “create your best moment ever!” with me….  

Create Abundance with Self

Many people talk about creating a life of abundance. Abundance is the capacity to living in plentiful supply. It starts with being already contented with what you already have. Contentment can never be derived from external gratification alone. True contentment comes from self acceptance. It is about loving yourself unconditionally. Hence, if you wish to create a life of your dreams, you need to work from within.

When you have self love, you are continually tuned into joy. You radiate. Your external relationships are healthy. Others are attracted to your magnetic power. You also have adequate self esteem. You have every confidence and feel deserving of abundance. Attracting positive outcomes becomes easy when you are in joy and have a positive mindset.

While it is obvious to see the relationship between manifesting abundance and self love, not many people are aware of this. They are not aware that changing their external reality starts with working on the self. Mostly, people work on trying to fix other parties rather than themselves. They push blame or responsibility to others.

They also believe that they can earn more money through working harder. So they spend more time in the office and chasing datelines. However, this thinking puts them in a constant struggle. They are constantly unwell. Instead of exuding the vibration of “having”, they are exuding “not having”. Since like attracts like according to the Law of Attraction, an energy of “not having” attracts more of “not having”.

Through self love, you nurture yourself in supportive ways. You learn to love yourself for all the positive things that you see within you. For what appears to be weaknesses or flaws, accept yourself anyway. Understand that since nobody is perfect, you should not judge yourself too harshly. However, do not let your weaknesses be excuses not to improve on them. Instead, be gentle to yourself despite your shortcomings and since you love yourself you will strive to correct them. You are also to understand what makes you unique.

You value your own gifts and make a commitment to yourself to grow them. You have confidence and beliefs in your talents and skills. Positive beliefs are very necessary ingredients for success. If you do not believe in yourself, then why should anyone else? When you have a positive mindset, you draw more opportunities, people and resources to you. You have an infinite supply of ideas, which can help you with creating abundance as well! All that you desire – whether money or love – will come to you in living the life of your dreams.

About the Author Evelyn Lim is the author to Abundance Alchemy: Journey of Gold. She is also a blogger, life coach and intuitive consultant. She is from Singapore. Her passion is in creating and manifesting abundance, and her vision is that others will feel inspired to do the same. To visit a space of love, healing and creativity, or to order her book, please visit Evelyn’s site at

Thank *you*, dear reader!  Thank *you*, Evelyn!

May you experience abundant delight, peace, joy, wonder, awe throughout this week:)

Much peace,


  1. #1 by Evelyn Lim on January 30, 2011 - 4:19 am

    Thank you for showing us the way to honoring our internal healing process. Also, much thanks for featuring my article.

    I wish you continued inspiration, love, grace and peace. May you experience a sense of renewal each and everyday! Hope to see the new you blossoming 🙂

    • #2 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on February 3, 2011 - 2:03 am

      Hi Evelyn,
      Thank *you* for all that you inspire me greatly!
      I receive your blessing into my life and shall allow it to encourage and motivate me to open my arms to grace..thank you!

  2. #3 by Rand on January 30, 2011 - 5:31 am

    Since like attracts like according to the Law of Attraction, an energy of “not having” attracts more of “not having”.

    “A man is rich in proportion to the things he can do without…Sell your goods amd keep your thoughts”___Thoreau

    Yes contentment with yourself and what we already have like family, friends, spiritual awareness, natural environment, wildlife, music, art, humor, education, love, and silence.

    To accept that we have faults and limitations,but that we can work to improve on the “unique” being that we are.

    To open up yourself and allow love to come within from others.

    Joy you are on a “love” blog roll! I am glad to be able to read them. Have to go to bed for early rise for work tomorrow. I will read this one a few more times when I can.

    Will try to read Evelyn’s post soon.

    Thank you so much!

  3. #4 by Zeenat on January 31, 2011 - 11:45 am

    HI JOy and Evelyn,
    What a glorious post! Love definitely attracts love….like attracts like….
    To me success is the amount of love and joy I have spread in this lifetime. If i feel that is increasing a wee bit everyday, I’m happy…I’m successful.
    Having these confusing highly intertwined and materialistic notions of success just doesn’t last too long. What you get in return is also confusion. Success can be simplified na 🙂
    Thank you fro sharing your words and Evelyn’s words here Joy.
    So Much Love,

  4. #5 by Evita on January 31, 2011 - 4:44 pm

    Hi Joy,

    Wow, well, I feel even more connected along our similar paths together.
    The questions you raise about allowing in, about deserving are ones I have often allowed to creep into my conscious mind from my subconscious, where I realized they were sitting deeply buried.

    Your words really make me think even more about how much we pick up over the years in terms of social conditioning from all those around us, to make us feel unwhole or unworthy. I know it is very humbling for me to realize this and say, okay, so now what? What I am choosing to do about it from this moment on?

    Well now… now I will just continue to blossom the fullness of my being, as you are doing with yours. Each day, each moment, allow the courage of who I am shine.

    Thank you Joy for sharing Evelyn’s words too, and thank you Evelyn for your always wonderful insights on abundance.

  5. #6 by Dandy on February 1, 2011 - 3:13 am

    Hi Ladies!
    Thanks so much for this beautiful peice. I love how you encourage the process of creation. Creating a life filled with abundance is such a facinating journey – at least I’m finding it that way:) It’s been the most fantastic exploration I’ve ever been on! Thanks again!

  6. #7 by on February 1, 2011 - 4:18 am

    Joy and Evelyn,
    You both have wisdom to offer here. I love the self designed retreat you did Joy. Evelyn I think this is the first time I’ve ever seen anyone connect self-love with prosperity. Makes perfect sense to me! Wishing all of us much peace and joy in our prosperous world.

  7. #8 by Andrea DeBell - britetalk on February 1, 2011 - 3:08 pm

    Hi Joy and Evelyn! I absolutely love this post. I’m sure you’re not alone in self-doubt since thinking that we’re not worthy is one of the most common thoughts (most of us don’t like to admit it though). I’m right there with you that we’re made to success and to be splendid in more ways that we can imagine. Once we align ourselves with our true nature and internal abundance, life flows effortlessly.
    Thanks for this beautiful reminder. Loving blessings!

  8. #9 by Meredith on February 1, 2011 - 4:40 pm

    Dear Joy, thank you for this spirit-lifting post. I’ve been getting the message from several sources lately that I need to value and love myself better, and this piece was another confirmation that I must do the internal work.

    Sending you a huge hug and wishes for abundance for you and yours on *all* levels. 🙂

  9. #10 by Hilary on February 10, 2011 - 4:59 pm

    Hi Joy and Evelyn .. the simplicity is the thing, having a clean slate to progress .. I am working towards being in this position .. then abundance will have plenty of space to flow in! Love will too, hope, care, compassion will be overflowing ..

    I was interested to have a conversation the other day with our Massage Therapist Healer (I call her) who visits my Mum .. she is very spiritual .. so to me she’s along your ilks .. and she said

    a) some people can manifest things,

    b) others (like herself and me) she thought .. do things, but along the way things come to us.

    I embraced that thought .. as things keep popping up into my life that lead me forward … rather than manifest the direction I’m taking – I’m sure that will come later .. but for now, with my mother still around, I am moving my life forward and now I’m a little freer – things keeping happening .. and I think oh ok …

    Thanks interesting thoughts here from you both … Hilary

    • #11 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on February 11, 2011 - 4:47 am

      Hi Hilary,
      Thank you for stopping in:)
      In my life, I practice natural unfolding..I do not manifest specific details such as this particular position, or this specific person..but rather I create based upon my life intent of peace filled. So, I combine the a & b that you share in your comment. My son however, manifests specific..I’d like to go to six flags on this day kind of requests..and they happen. I love watching the process.
      Evelyn’s work inspires me..abundance in everything..
      I understand there is Universal Flow and I may tap into it each moment..Love…abundant love from which all else is created:)

  10. #12 by Hilary on February 11, 2011 - 7:25 am

    Hi Joy .. thank you .. I’ve downloaded her Abundance Vision Board notes .. and that will be interesting to combine in with other things I’m doing .. so slowly but surely!! Isn’t that great that your son is able to do that .. it must be amazing to watch .. and learn from I guess!

    Cheers have a good day from a wet Eastbourne! Hilary

    • #13 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on February 13, 2011 - 12:25 am

      Hi Hilary,
      Thank you! I use vision boards in my life..I have an entire sketch book of them. It is amazing to watch as I add a photo here, a smidgeon of something there, and then manifest it in my life….I flip through the pages of my book and think wow..I surely am creating my life..allowing for magic as I create:)
      My son has absolute faith..I think that is in the process or in magic, in your power, that all really is well and *everything* truly is possible!

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