Self Love Series: 6 Minutes 18 Seconds..


Welcome to my peace filled place.  It is my pleasure to share energy with you here. 

I share this personal story with you today because perhaps it will inspire you to allow for a few unguarded moments of exploring, experimenting, allowing Love to guide you to the Unknown..

My recent status on Facebook:

“I am presented with this Gift of one moment. I choose to accept this gift graciously and with gratitude. It is not for me to label, judge, or decline this moment..only to accept it and apply love and joy to it…”

along with this photo from an afternoon beach excursion with my children…

I am still on a self-directed retreat around my work schedule.  This retreat is to allow for clarity, rest, peace.  A transformational wave has plunged my Being into unknown.  I was afraid of this particular unknown because I have to release a bit to embrace it.  I do not know the specifics or the destination.  As I open my heart to playing with this wave instead of resisting it.. very similar to the natural way I choose to sail..I see I am well prepared for whatever newness is ushered in.  I am more of my self, even as I am less of my *self*..At this moment, All that I Know for Sure is *what is not* and in Knowing *what is not* I Feel I am embracing *what is*.   My retreat is a back to basics retreat: the children and I spend many afternoons at the beach after school/work..spend long, lazy evenings together..I walk, journal, connect, practice yoga, talk with God and the Universe…and…

I drum!

If I’m going to allow my heart to open to the moment, there are layers that haven’t seen light in a long time.  So, I let those layers breathe in fresh air.  One such layer is drumming..I love to drum!  My drum is stuck in a corner of the boat, collecting that what I do with Love??..I Know it will be there steadfast and true so I stick Love in a corner while I fill my time with “stuff”…

I Know that the beauty of the sunsets touch my soul..allow my heart whispers to exuberantly express to the Universe..and one way I express my love, joy, gratitude is to drum.  So, I challenge my self to drum to music from my friend’s IPOD.  My friend is an excellent guitarist and his IPOD is full of guitar riffs that wrap right around my heart.  He is an awesome friend because during this retreat I will allow minimal contact in my physical space, so while I will not directly interact with him, he allows me to borrow his IPOD anyway.  He Knows it will be healing.  It is.  The first night, I take it to the beach at sunset and run laps on the beach…opens my little heart right up.  I decide that every night the children and I shall go to the beach at sunset, like we used to do when we first moved onto the boat.

One of our greatest pleasures together as a family is beach play.  It is a perfect transition from the responsibilities of the day and the peace of the evening.  I wonder at what point this year did something in my life take precedence over the pleasures of a beach sunset together.  I cannot even name what that something is.  A time filler.  So, I make time for evening beach sunsets…and like *that* my children and I are given the gift of time and beauty together. 

Back to the IPOD and drumming…in the quiet of the night, I choose to listen to songs I hadn’t yet heard.  Funny, because as I listened I realized my heart had been guarded for many months…and I came to this one song that tore at my heart.  Holy sh–!  tore at it like you lost your best friend…I cried.  I thought..I did lose my best friend–I lost me! One year ago I had cancer and was so pleased to be in the day..when did I begin to take that gift for granted..the gift of Cancer and Awareness and Pleasure to be in this day and to create and serve and laugh and play..because I Freakin Could be Aware and Pleased and Create and Serve and Laugh and Play!!!  Oh man, I cried. One year ago,  I would go to sleep at night, and cry into my pillow because I had internal pain, and I wanted to Live to enjoy time with my children and create with love.  And I would wake each morning with a huge “thank you!” in my heart–thank you for the gift of this one more day! I didn’t care what was in the day, I was just so glad to have the time.  That gratitude was my guide. 

What happened to my gratitude… buried it in layers of “have to’s” and “should’s” and I forgot about sailing and dancing and sometimes I wake and think I am so exhausted, do I have to do this yet again?  before the gratitude comes flooding in.  So, I bring my IPOD, and this song that tears at my heart, outside to the moon and the stars and I look.  I really look.  I take in the magnificence even as I listen to this song, this instrumental that tugs at my heart and makes it want to explode and I want to pray please God take me right now, right here, because this is some pain I have not felt in a long, long time.   I cry some more.

I go into my boat.  My little boat that is my cocoon while I transform.. my refuge, my peace.  And I get out my drum.  And I promise my self no matter what I feel when I drum to this song, I will drum the duration of the song.  The first few notes I tentatively pick out a beat on my drum..then the guitar starts..and I weep.  I find a new beat.  I am literally looking outside through the window of this boat that is my dream, to this harbor I the skyline…and I am finding a beat.  I am more confident, though the tears consistently roll down my face, wet my shirt, blur my vision.  And I think how long is this song, can I do it, shall I give up, freak this hurts, but yet..

But yet, something feels so right.  I close my eyes, and I Feel it.  I Feel the music, I Feel the beat, I Feel the gentle rocking motion of my boat as she rests in the slip.  I Feel peace, I Feel joy, I Feel Life.

Six minutes, eighteen seconds. 

An eternity.

And I realize: thank you God, Universe for not taking it away…because it wasn’t pain at all.  I tried to label this deep feeling within my label was incorrect.  When I closed my eyes and Felt it..I found it to be Love.  Gentle, pure, untouched Love.  And I played it to God, to the Universe. I was able to play it, because I did not quit.  I did not ask someone to play it instead of me, or to hold my hand…I. Played.  It. 

I’m not going to share the song here.  But I am going to share a gift with you. 

The gift of pure, untouched Love.

I do not have to understand a moment, I do not have to apply butterflies and glitter/Light/Faith/Golden to a moment, I only have to open my heart to the moment as it is presented to me..To Feel the Gift of Life, the ultimate gift of love.

Here is my Gift of Love:

Please click this link to read an amazing article by Teresa….If I Should Die

Please remember to celebrate the steps you do take rather than allow guilt for the ones you do not..

Please love your self, gently, kindly, unconditionally, joy fully… as fully as you choose to love others who are special to you. 

And, if you look at the sunset, the moon and stars..or Light on the horizon..Know I am looking too, and we share the moment together.  Thank you for sharing the moment!

Six minutes, eighteen seconds and the willingness to allow for brought Me back..

And I am most glad to be *here*!

Much peace,


Joy *Moonbeam*

  1. #1 by Alex Blackwell on January 28, 2011 - 2:34 am

    Joy – A inspiring story to remind us to never “should” ourselves, but rather to embrace what we have right now.

    Thank you for this gift.


    • #2 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on January 29, 2011 - 6:24 pm

      Hi Alex,
      Thank you! *Now* is what we know we have, may we embrace it as fully as possible..always knowing we are doing our very best with the resources we have in the moment we are in. Grace, love, compassion come to mind..potent in a self-love mix!

  2. #3 by Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord on January 28, 2011 - 3:11 am

    Joy, I do not have all the words right now with which to express my gratitude for this post. I see myself in your words, and I, too, want to cry. I will not shrink back entirely. I may be resting and reposing these days, but I will not shrink back entirely. I will live this moment and remember that it is a gift. Thank you

    • #4 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on January 29, 2011 - 6:27 pm

      Hi Megan,
      In heart space, words are not necessary. For blogging purposes, though, I presented my story in words *grin*
      Thank you for experiencing all that you are and choosing not to shrink…You are perfectly made, and what you reflect to me and All around you enriches lives and touches hearts..We never Know the impact we have on you remind me, we are your reflections, so may the beauty, joy, love, delight, laughter, fun…you see in *us*, be yours in abundance:)

  3. #5 by Dandy on January 28, 2011 - 4:33 am

    Hi Joy,
    This is absolutely gorgeous. After I read it, I just had to sit still for a moment and catch my breath. You said the pain you thought you felt was actually love. That’s beautiful. This post really encourages us to be gentle with ourselves and to not judge our feelings. Thanks for your honesty Joy!

    • #6 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on January 29, 2011 - 6:30 pm

      Hi Dandy,
      Thank you for honoring stillness, and sharing that here. A lesson for me is not to “fill” my time, but to allow for stillness. To sit still, be still, Know still..and allow still to shape my vision.
      I try to to label, but my emotion was so strong, I felt my heart was I labelled it pain. However, my heart was not breaking, just sloughing off a layer of barrier…and I found the emotion coursing through me to be love, pure, gentle, abundantly magnificient love! Pure because it hadn’t been exposed to the world yet..Had I allowed fear of pain to close me down, I would still be stuck in fear; I am so glad that I allowed my self to Feel it fully..because this love is healing…

  4. #7 by Mandy Allen on January 28, 2011 - 11:46 am

    Very inspiring. It has encouraged me to spend those quiet times more often.

    Enjoy the journey.


    • #8 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on January 29, 2011 - 6:33 pm

      Hi Mandy,
      Thank you. In my own journey, I allow for quiet. I also find that I fill silence with music, speech, words..and that muddles my clarity and may redirect my steps if I allow it to. When I recognize this, I honor silence..sometimes full days of silence..a joy for me. One of the biggest pleasures of my life is to experience silence with loved ones..very rare, but most treasured!

  5. #9 by Rand on January 30, 2011 - 4:33 am

    “Hello darkness, my old friend
    I’ve come to talk with you again
    Because a vision softly creeping
    Left its seeds while I was sleeping
    And the vision that was planted in my brain
    Still remains
    Within the sound of silence”

    Thank you Joy this was most beautiful.

    You had a spiritual reunion with your *old friend* drum and I sensed God’s presence in helping to break the *silence*

    It is so human to put things away to accumulate dust that give us so much pleasure…but then in living a full life this will happen.

    Your children and loved ones are most blessed to be able to share silence with you.

    The next sunset at the beach you know who I will think of.

    I will say a prayer in silence…

    • #10 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on January 30, 2011 - 4:52 am

      Hi Rand,
      Simply beautiful..thank you! You *got* it..and that brought tears to my eyes..You lifted my entire evening!
      I love that song..
      I had a spiritual reunion with my *old friend* me..
      It is so human..and I sometimes forget I am in a human body…however I’m not given love to collect dust, I’m given love to nurture, grow, and share…
      *I* am blessed to share silence with my children..and to have had loved ones to share with..
      And guess what, Rand..I’m having a quiet evening while my children play..and you just reminded me I have “my” IPOD to listen to as I create..
      Thank you for your prayer…and for sharing silence with me 🙂

  6. #11 by Meredith on February 3, 2011 - 3:17 am

    I am crying after reading this, Joy. Such an amazing, moving piece of writing — and I have yet to click the link. If you say it is lovely, it must be. But there’s no way it could top this post.

    Thank you.

    • #12 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on February 3, 2011 - 3:42 am

      Thank *you*.
      I reread this piece after I read your comment. Only a few days later since I have written, yet I feel so settled, so me. All of my ‘self’ that I put to the side is back front and appreciation, gratitude, willingness to embrace the moment and the day whole heartedly regardless of what is in manifest what *is* in my moments, to create, to laugh, to *live*.
      I cried my own tears as I reread my words..for I Know that feeling well. Instead of putting my drum back into the corner, I put it out so I may play as I pass, or focus my energy and play for an extended period of time..
      Kind of like my heart:)
      You are one whom I connect with in another butterfly/fairy sister..while in my retreat, I haven’t visited many other sites..yours is one I am excited to get back to..
      Thank you for all that you share:)

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