Hello. Welcome to my peace filled place!
My article today is inspired by my friend Nadia who wrote an honest piece that I think you should check out What to do When the Universe Hands You a Brick Wall. The title alone describes a feeling that I have heard has settled among us in the past few weeks..slammed, exhausted, discouraged..a few adjectives to describe what some clients and friends have reported feeling lately. So, Nadia’s title intrigued me, and her article touches on some issues I think we’ve all felt.
My answer to her was: I might decorate the wall, then get a racket, gather some friends, and play against it for a while. In general, that is my Truth. However, there are some days that I put aside my butterflies and glitter and say F*** It..I stomp my feet, have a titanic sized tantrum, close the door to my v-berth and refuse to come out. (There are some days I choose to gently cocoon in my v-berth–that is far different!). Since I believe my thoughts create my moments, I try to keep these thoughts to a minimum, because quite frankly I believe if I sit in a thought as potent as f*** that sh**..I better have a raincoat and boots on because lots of f****n sh** is heading my way!
I choose to apply my butterflies and glitter to the Universe’ wall– to any feeling of “less than”– because I know that I create my moments and I want my moments to be as magical as possible. I choose to invest my energy in healthy, whole, nutrition for my mind/body/soul/spirit because I want my mind/body/soul/spirit to be at optimal working condition. I Know when I compromise..and let’s face it sometimes compromise is mighty tempting..I will be rewarded with *Compromise* Bold, Capital, Underlined. Just as confidently as I Know when I choose healthy, whole, nutritious..when I choose to open my heart to love regardless of external…I will be rewarded with Amazing, Beyond What I Can Imagine! I choose Amazing, Beyond What I Can Imagine!
In my life, I embrace ease free, struggle free, unfolding. I want to live “the best life possible”. This often requires a bit of work on my part. Part of my peace is from a practice of yoga, long beach walks, journal writing, making daily time to create. There are days I do not want to practice yoga, or walk or journal or create..and some days I honor that..however, most days I work through it because I know the reward is awesome. Most days I am on the yoga mat, at the beach, pen and notepad in hand, rescheduling something frivolous so that I may create. What I focus my energy on grows, so I focus on “butterflies and glitter”.
When a person approaches me for guidance, they often want to hear that the Answer is external. It is not. I will use myself as an example…when I am stuck, discouraged, frustrated, hurt, “less than peace filled”…the Answer is within me. Each and every time. I cannot change you, and fixing an external piece is akin to applying a band-aid to an open gaping wound. I can only look within *me* and sometimes the Answer requires some work on my part that I do not want to do. If I do not address it, it does not go away, it sits and grows and becomes even more irritating. Of I bury the Answer, it is still there, only now it’s buried under layers so will require more work when I choose to focus on it.
My solution in my own life is preventative. If I invest my energy in self-love, by opening my heart to *me* and allowing my light to shine, dreaming, manifesting, doing the daily work of maintenance, growing, healing, living…there are minimal “less than” days…
I recruited a guest author, Baker, to share more about this with you. I met Baker and found his website through Facebook, his energy is amazing, and the tips that he shares here are practical and do-able.
The 4 Essential Tips To Self Love
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
-Oscar Wilde quotes
You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy. Self love is all about putting yourself first, because by taking good care of yourself, you are in a much better position to love others and be of real service. There are four specific things I do to show appreciation for myself.
Below are the top 4 things I do to show appreciation for me, that lead me to a healthy and sincere space of self-love.
- Meditation: I make a daily practice to meditate each morning. I simply close my eyes, clear my thoughts and sit there in silence. Meditation is probably one of the most effective ways to show love to yourself, because you are taking time out in meditation to connect back to your core, and by connecting to this core you become more balanced and grounded.
2. Walking in Nature: Sometimes when I walk in nature it is the most liberating and peaceful feeling I can ever imagine. The reason is because it is proven scientifically that nature Herself has healing properties. So breathing in the fresh air when you are in nature as you walk a nice walk can truly revitalize your core energy. Indeed walking in nature is a very serene and peaceful time for you not only to connect back with nature, but also connect back with yourself.
3. Eating Healthy and Nourishing Food: When I am eating healthy foods that means I am taking good care of myself. This means I care enough about my physical health and well being to only digest food that is good and pleasing to my body. As people begin to become more health conscious they begin to see that eating healthy food as a way of life is indeed a key factor in their overall self-love and self respect.
4. Adequate Rest: Sleep is highly underrated. For our bodies to feel healthy, revitalized adequate amounts of rest is essential. I take a nice 1 hr nap each afternoon after I get most of my writing done. Adequate rest and taking a break from time to time, means you are respecting yourself enough to say you deserve a good rest. This allows you to be more balanced, and revitalized when you need to be productive. Self love begins with knowing when to take a break from your busy activities. A good rest during the day is essential to taking care of yourself, and loving yourself fully.
Baker’s Bio: Baker is a 26 year old full time blogger that inspires and empowers people to live their dreams from the inside out at Baker’s World Blog. He is also the author of the e-book Baker’s Secret Recipe for Success.
Thank you, Baker, for some easy self-love tips. And thank you, dear reader, for sharing energy in this space today. May I ask, what is your #1 self-love tip?