Delight Filled Change!



As many of you know, I live on a boat.  One of my all-time favorite marina activities is the seasonal parade of lights.  Many boats are decorated with multi-colored lights and fabulous displays. I love *magic*..and part of the wonder of the parade is that the week before, boat owners come and when we liveaboards wake pre-dawn we are ‘rewarded’ with newly lit boats..magical indeed:) 

I don’t love to hang the lights on my boat.  Each year, I have a new story.  Last year I literally electrocuted myself, while my neighbors watched..Obviously one should not attempt to hang boat lights in the rain!  Lovely:) 

The boat parade is this weekend.  So, I think I should hang children love it..and it really is magical.  Only “problem” is I have established in my mind that I do not love to hang boat is quite a  chore..  This year though, I have added incentive–special guests will be with us this season, and I believe they will enjoy the boat in her magical aura….

So, I wake and decide I will change my thought. I decide that hanging boat lights is a pleasure that will absolutely be ease free and delight filled.  I will thoroughly enjoy hanging boat lights this year!

Of course, to embrace this new thought, I believed I should also create different external circumstances.  I called my friend and bartered dinner for hanging win:)  As I prepped dinner, the aromas filled the inside of the boat.  I lit a candle, had some of my favorite music playing.  Waited until night-time, when the moon and stars were out.  And under the moon and stars I hung my lights.  Joy fully..Lovingly…hung the boat lights..

I affirmed that decorating was ease free and fun..and it was ease free and fun!!!  I did cut myself a bit..but minor..and it was enjoyable..because I knew it would be!

Part two of this story is simply this:

Last year at this time I had stage 3 cervical cancer.  I was a few weeks away from surgery.  My physical activity was severely limited. I was told that I would probably not be here on Earth for the following holidays.  So, after the season, I was going to throw my lights away.  Why use the energy to painstakingly pack and store them if I wouldn’t be here to use them? 

This year, when I plugged in the first strand of lights, I was struck with the simple fact that this moment simply wasn’t “supposed” to happen.  I am so glad that my thoughts do not include ‘supposed to’ in them! How awe-some, how heart flooded with gratitude as I looked at this simple strand of lights and thought how precious life truly is.  Then, my friend came to help me.  Amazing to me because we follow the tide and were in an ‘out’ cycle.  How significant is that?  I opened my heart and impossible became not only possible, but quite magical:)  My heart fills with gratitude when I think of All in my life that truly would not happen if I allowed my thoughts to remain the same. 

The moment I change my thoughts and open my heart, is the moment that magic fills the space and magnifies the wonderful in it!  Anything truly is possible when I allow it to be!

Speaking of change…as you may have noticed *grin* I took a chance and reworked my blog to be most heart centered.  Against the advice of a few marketing gurus.  My mind said I don’t think heart said yes please!….And then, a gift of delight! From  Zeenat, the author of  Positive Provocations, and a beauty filled friend!!!  She designed my new header and asked if she could present it to me.  To me, the butterflies and glitter girl..who now has a new header that captures my essence and the essence of all that I share here! I love it!!!  So very much!!!!

Thank you, Zeenat, and thank *you* dear readers for being patient and gentle as I create new and different through this blog. 

I invite you to change your thought and open your heart to something new and different this season..What will you embrace as the new year begins?

Much peace,


  1. #1 by Alex Blackwell on December 12, 2010 - 12:10 pm

    Continue to allow the magic into you life Joy.

    Blessings to you, always.


    • #2 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on December 13, 2010 - 7:45 am

      Hi Alex,
      Thank you!
      I open my heart to allow for magic..glorious, knock your socks off kind of magic..and I am rewarded far beyond what I can even think to ask for! My life truly is as grand as I allow it to be 🙂

  2. #3 by Sandra Lee on December 12, 2010 - 9:26 pm


    I loved your story of working with and overcoming an unhelpful thought. There are so many things like hanging lights that I don’t like to do. Getting gas is one of them! I find if I ignore the negative thought and just focus on the action, it works perfectly. But I love the way you infused the activity with fun and joy. That is so perfect!

    We are all so blessed that your thoughts do not include “not supposed to” and that you are here with us today.

    Congratulations on the changes in your blog! Zeenat is a sweetheart and I love the warmth exuding from your design.

    • #4 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on December 13, 2010 - 7:48 am

      Hi Sandra Lee,
      Thank you!
      As I read your comment, I think perhaps another solution is to trade “things we don’t like to do”. Something I resist may be full of ease for another and vice versa! Anytime there is something I feel less than peace filled about, I tend to infuse it with joy and fun..helps bring me back to peace filled and allows the action to be a pleasure rather than a task.
      I am blessed to have so much support and encouragement as I create..Zeenat captured my essence so well..and there are many others who guide me along; my heart is full of gratitude!

  3. #5 by Talon on December 13, 2010 - 3:13 am

    Beautiful thoughts, Joy, and I’m so glad you are here today sharing your experiences and your fantastic positivity.

    The new header is glorious!

    I’ve seen those boats all lit up and it’s so completely magical…

    • #6 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on December 13, 2010 - 7:50 am

      Hi Talon,
      Thank you!
      Glorious indeed:)
      For me part of the magic of the boat lights is the creativity in decorating..there is only so much space to work in…and the fact that I can go to sleep with one boat decorated and wake up to quite a few decorated..each day during the season..kind of fun to anticipate:)

  4. #7 by The Exception on December 13, 2010 - 5:17 pm

    I have always wanted to see the boats lit for Christmas and the holidays. There is something about the lights and the idea that they are “fairy lights” that is beyond magic to enchanting. So fitting that you live on such a boat and the you now have fairy lights aflaot on yours!

    Wonderful open heart joy and what an example as to how we can change our thoughts and turn things around.

    • #8 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on December 14, 2010 - 11:48 am

      Oh wow–thank you!!! Your comment warms my heart:)
      I love all things fairy..the kids and I were actually thinking of decorating the boat with a fairy theme for the holidays. Enchanting is the perfect adjective to describe many components of our life. I believe because we open our hearts so may See and Experience the Beauty and Joy surrounding us.
      I have to tell you that the fairy lights have attracted the most wonderful people to our boat..and I hadn’t thought of that at all until your comment..thank you for inspiring me to even greater gratitude!

  5. #9 by Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord on December 14, 2010 - 4:04 pm

    As always, your life’s stories inspire me. Re: your new header — it’s beautiful & blessed, like you! Re: being here against “their” odds — what a great reminder that what “they” think doesn’t matter. It’s what *you* think and believe that alters the landscape of your life. All the more reason to surround yourself with supportive, positive, and inspirational people who continue to lift you up, up, up to the moon and stars, for they are your true essence.
    Re: being open to new and different — you’re constantly reminding me of this, and for that and so much more, I am grateful. Thank you!
    I love you!

  6. #10 by Hilary on December 16, 2010 - 8:19 pm

    Hi Joy .. an amazing fiery earthy header with a flutterby .. could be a Red Admiral, or Painted Lady, or a Skipper .. but none actually fit .. the Painted Lady being the nearest – but as it’s a Zeenat special .. and Indian butterfly .. then it’s probably something completely different and special to the Asian continent? Great top!?! the new header …

    And the story of openness and heart .. all we need at all times .. to overcome the travails of life, the travails of LIFE, and the travails of being .. but we all get through somehow & offer hope, love, sincerity and a breath for more life ahead of us .. as you do and your readers ..

    With love and thoughts to your lights on your boat and your kids and you .. happy days .. Hilary

  7. #11 by Zeenat on December 24, 2010 - 1:50 pm

    Joy, I’m so glad you are loving the new header. I’m just in the middle of writing my love post for your love week 🙂
    Will be linking back to you soon.
    So Much Love always….

    • #12 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on December 26, 2010 - 7:34 am

      The new header you created complements the magnificent energy within this space–thank *you* for you generosity and kindness:)

  8. #13 by Rand on January 7, 2011 - 4:13 am

    Hello Joy!

    Tess’s “110” has me visiting “going on a cord” as one does in Ireland. Speaking of Ireland…I mentioned in a comment that “fairy forts in West Clare, Ireland never scared me.” I live similar to you, but not on a boat. I have been emailing my friend in Malaysia…Mike has been living on his boat for about 15 years now. I hope to go back and see him this year. Sounds like we live pretty close to each other. I’m down in San Diego. You are a true inspiration and it is nice to know you have have all this loving support behind you…it just keeps flowing…right through you… and outward towards the rest of the world. I certainly feel the goodness.

    Peace and Love,

    • #14 by unfoldingyourpathtojoy on January 9, 2011 - 8:06 am

      Hi Rand,
      Thank you for visiting! Thank you for the kind words.
      San Diego is a gem of a beauty filled, culture filled..gorgeous beaches! I do try to visit about once a year..
      Sounds like you are about to experience adventure..*anything* truly is possible when you open your heart and allow it to be!

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