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“Today you are You,
That is Truer than true.
There is no one alive
Who is Youer than You”. -Dr Seuss..
I recently won a Superpower coaching session from Karl at Work Happy Now. To be honest, I thought that Tess rigged the contest because she is always gently urging me to use my talents in bigger ways; but it was actually a gift from the Universe and Karl…..
Karl was very organized–we had a limited amount of time, so he emailed me a list of questions to think about so that I would be prepped and ready for our session. I had an easy time answering the questions, and I also tried to have an open mind about what he would prompt me to do. I truly thought he would guide me toward leaving my present full time job at the hospital to embrace life coaching and motivational speaking full time. I tried to release that expectation and attend the session with an open mind. On the day of my session, I was in the midst of bronchitis settling in..I felt miserable and had full-blown laryngitis–barely able to push enough air over my vocal chords to make a sound…My illness related to other areas of my life and I was not about to let laryngitis deter me from my motivation to move forward in my life…I am growing a dream and I am not going to let earthly constraints be a barrier..
So, when Karl called, I answered…I wanted to be in a peaceful spot, so I walked to the park next to my boat, sat propped up next to a tree trunk to soak up the energy from the tree, in a position to look out as the sun was setting over the harbor. I feel if I am to do ‘hard work’ I will facilitate it in the best way possible..Energy from the tree and the setting sun, while sitting in the harbor that I love…good setting…I digress–back to Karl..I found that he was pleasant, an active listener in that he heard my words but also heard behind my words as well. I think he was surprised I was going to continue with the session while ill, but truly if there was any fear surrounding potential for growth I wanted to work through it, so he gamely went ahead with the session. He didn’t ask me to let go of one job to embrace another, he asked me to consider growing my new job to a certain level then letting go. He asked me to use my creativity to consider other opportunities within this new field. He asked poignant questions, he listened….Then..Karl asked me to take it beyond ordinary to extraordinary…
Now Karl is reading this, thinking: “Did I ask that last part??” No, Karl not in those words. What Karl asked me directly was: “What makes you unique? *That* is what you need to focus on”…then our time was up, and our session was over…..
My entire life I have been told to please be ordinary. Told by whom? My immediate family, my friends, my co-workers, my peers, for most of my life not one person had ever said grow what is unique… If my Light shined, if I embraced a moment other’s shied away from, if I was enthusiastic, exuberant, energetic, joy filled…I was asked to dim it, calm it down, lessen my reaction..to do anything but stand out…Now here I am in this stage of life embracing my Light, using it to heal…and Karl basically said that’s great, now take what is unique about you and grow that..stand out in your own special way…Yep, fear came in…loud and clear..if I allow myself to be extraordinary I will be set farther apart from most, more than I am now. I may “lose everything” (hey, fear isn’t rational). I may lose even more loved ones because no one will understand…why why why does *that* have to be the question…
Because I am growing a dream. And growing a dream is easy work once I have cleared the appropriate space and opened my heart far enough. This question was from the Universe to get me to *that place*..that place where I am ready. So, I took myself to one of my favorite metaphysical stores because quite frankly they seem to ‘understand me’ there. The cashier was new and she asked what modality I worked within. I told her I am a healer, a Light worker. *That* is the first time I have ever spoken those words out loud. Written them many times, allowed Energy to heal many times….never spoke those words out loud…And guess what? I felt the clouds part, fireworks explode, sun grow brighter, moonbeams touch my head…I felt the shift in the Universe that happens when one Being finally acknowledges who they are and why they are placed on Earth..Does that make the path easier? Not necessarily, but it makes my heart open farthest.
*Thank you* Karl–your skills are amazing–I cannot put words to what you have done for me..more than a step forward in a career, I am embracing my uniqueness, and *that* is changing my life in gloriously magnificent ways… Please check out Karl’s site and sign up for his newsletter..he can do for you what you allow him to do..show you how to make your current work situation more joy filled or help you step forward in growing your career path…And this, well, this next part is dedicated to you, Karl, and to you my friends, mentors, Angels who have believed in, encouraged, inspired me to Embrace my Light and be who I was created to be…My heart overflows and tears stream down my face as I write..I am absolutely love filled and thankful more than I can express….
And as I write, someone I trust very much– a person who tells the world that they love me….. has just deleted their subscription to my blog. There is truth within my fear then…I will lose people who say they love me…but I face that fear head on as I write and share anyway…
What makes *me* “Joy Christin Alyce Detor Holland’ unique..as a person…as a Light worker..as a life coach… :
“The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty, even if it’s not pretty, every day and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the middle of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”
Many of you are familiar with this piece of work. Oriah has written a book in which each chapter is a study based upon a verse of the above poem. I give this book to my clients in our first session. I will guide you in life because I love you, or I will coach you as my client, if you may tell me from your heart what is it you wish to be, know, do….
Why am I unique? Because this poem is my life, how I interact Being to Being. I do not see you as you are presented in front of me. I do not often notice your physical self–after we have been together I usually cannot describe what did you wear, what color are your shoes..but I can say if there was a light in your eyes, if your smile was genuine and large, if there is an ease about you. So, the physical imperfections that seem to hold you back, are not even present to me….
When you speak with me I hear your words sure, but I listen to your heart whispers. If your heart is closed it is a faint whisper begging to be heard, if your heart is open it is a beauty filled song. I listen.. So your state of mind/emotions are not present to me…I connect with and hear your heart..if you have never experienced that it is an awe-some validating experience; rarely is a heart whisper heard let alone acknowledged….
I don’t ask you about your past or who you used to be…I ask you what was good in your day today, what makes your heart sing today, what do you love about yourself today. Who are you today…I relate with the good that you give me..I release all else. Together, we grow that good. So, your past history has no bearing on how I relate with you today in this moment…what barriers, wounds, regrets, mistakes weigh you down, are what I have already released about you. I acknowledge you as you are in this very moment, with the unlimited potential of Being.
If you present me with your dream, I want you to soar higher than you can imagine, and together we will find a way for you to capture that essence today with what you have this very moment exactly as you are. I will show you how to step into your dream this very moment… All that you’ve begun then stopped, or hadn’t had the courage yet to try, or tried and ‘failed’ isn’t present to me; you may step into your dream the very second you’ve acknowledged it.
If you present me with a wound, a fear, a pain…I don’t want you to numb it , I want you to feel it, feel the sorrow, the hurt, the depth of which you’ve walked around over under your entire life, but now feel it feel it so you lose the fear surrounding it and the pain loses it power in your life. Pain sucks but it is doable if it has no power. I cannot absorb the pain for you, but I can help you to dissolve it. I don’t notice the pain itself, I notice how far your heart is open…
What makes me unique? I may write well, but I truly don’t believe in words written or spoken. I believe in actions. Don’t tell me who you are or what you are going to do…*show me*..And I give the same to you. I will show you how to live the above poem because I live it. Line for line I live it….I reflect to you the best of yourself, even if you cannot see it, because I can feel it I can see it I know it about you. I reflect to you Love, Light, Peace, Joy, Faith, because that is what I allow in my life, what I choose to grow…And I share with you from overflowing abundance in those areas because when you take it from me flow allows it to be quickly replaced….I have released specific experiences, healed huge wounds….but my history is a beautiful tapestry wrapped around me..and from that I may relate to you from my heart..because I *have been there*…
In closing, my session with Karl was two weeks ago. My writing has since evolved because I chose to write solely from my heart…to use these pages to relate with you as I would in physical life… I allow Spirit to guide my words, Energy to reflect to you what you ‘need’ from what you’ve read so that you may grow within your own life…I have added a joy filled thought of the day…I have added an affirmation/inspiration services page….I am celebrating the opening of new doors…I am reassessing and releasing so that each step forward is with ease…
So, to paraphrase Karl….What is unique about *you*??? Do you celebrate that or hide it away?
This isn’t about money…This is about life…If there is any way I may help you, please let me know. And remember…you are perfectly made, exactly as you are, for this exact moment that you are in. *You* are absolutely enough this moment and every moment following. *You* Are….